Forgive EVERYONE but yourself if you’re not happy.
It’s nobody’s fault but your own.
Change your attitude or your environment if you are not happy.
And always remember,
Your ENVIRONMENT includes everything outside of yourself, including your relationships with other people.
And if you think you have an obligation to your “family” to be miserable because of them, you don’t deserve happiness and will suffer continually until you let them go in the process of changing your environment.
To change your attitude, become mentally challenged … THAT’S RIGHT … non-politically correctly said, “retarded” … in how you deal with other people … just like Down Syndrome people, who exist closer to their true self than anyone else.
Isn’t it when we try to impress people that we cause ourself stress?
Ask yourself, “Why am I reacting to this person in a way that causes me stress and/or unhappiness?”
Learn to walk away from unhappiness.
I promise, if I’m ever confronted with unhappiness from another human being, if I can’t immediately change my attitude about the situation, I’ll smile and walk away.
And the thing I love to walk away from more than any other human communication propensity is gossip. If you engage me in conversation and you want to tell me something negative about someone else, you’ll see my smile and then my butt as I walk away from you. I don’t want to hear negativity about others.
I don’t mind hearing negative things about YOU and your self. Because then I can decide for myself at the moment what value I place on continuing to listen to you and if you are really feeding me a bunch of self-predicating b.s. If it’s YOUR bs, then I might decide to listen to you and enjoy the experience as I attempt to figure out why you’re so unhappy so that I can then rejoice that I’m not you. :-)
But when you speak of someone else, that person is not there for me to see or feel; and I have no reference point from which to make a decision on whether or not I want to listen except my imagination.
Yep, our imagination is responsible for 100% of what we think about another person who is not present when we talk about them.
Think about this.
Then live in pursuit of happiness always … not the happiness of anyone but yourself.