Went to court today for the final time regarding the child support issue with my ex, Jackie Stoll Nemelka Howard.
The case is and always was pretty simple:
Jackie lied to the court, and the Judge in the case on two separate occasions awarded her child support based on her perjured testimony about how much I provided over the years for her and our children.
My fight was to ensure that the real truth be told and that I should only have to pay what is legally mandated and required. Rod Vessels was preparing to take the case back to court on a Petition to Modify Child Support Award in 2011 when he had a stroke and could no longer represent me.
The State of Utah, with the prodding of Jackie and my enemies, filed a Felony Criminal Non-Support charge against me … when the State has thousands of non-payers who owe much, much more than I do … go figure! :-) (You have to wonder if this case opened a hornet’s nest of women going to the State and having Felony Charges filed against their exes.)
I adamantly refused to pay the amount that the court had awarded Jackie and wanted an opportunity to present the evidence of the facts in court, something I had never had the opportunity to do. I was willing to go all the way to a felony criminal trial to bring out the real truth.
The State’s prosecutor took a good look at the evidence we provided her in discovery …
And the State dismissed the case today requiring me to pay over $20,000 less than what Jackie had been awarded.
Case dismissed by the Judge. Case over! :-)
Now, Jackie deserves a lot more compensation for the things she went through with me than I will ever be able to pay her in money. For me, it was never about the money, although I’ll never have the amount the court had awarded her. It was about the real truth. Although she deserves my apology and compassion, she does not need to lie about the past. She simply needs to tell the truth and I’ll always side with her and support her in her angst against me for causing her to go through so many years of misery with me …
… But wait a minute here!
… Jackie was a grown woman who never left me. Even when my father had me handcuffed and arrested and told the police that Jackie was afraid to leave me, Jackie stayed and supported me throughout it all.
I suppose that my enemies and critics can claim that I have such a supernatural power over people that I can make anyone stay under any circumstances. Boy, I am a god! :-)
I hope Jackie can now get on with her life. She never needs to see me again. Our children we had together never need to see me again, if that is their choice.
There’s plenty of planets in our solar system, plenty of opportunity for people who see things differently to live and experience life according to their own desires. I wish Jackie the best in her life … a life that she should really think about and wonder what it would be like if she had never met me. Maybe then she’ll warm up her cold, vengeful heart to the fact that I hold no bad feelings. I just want the real truth known.
I traveled to Montana after court to babysit my granddaughter while her father is away on a summer vacation and my daughter works.
Ah, yes! The joy of being a Grandpa!
Ah, yes! The joy of watching another human grow with independence and free will and experiencing all this life has to give both of us!
And Montana’s environment beats the heck out of Utah’s! :-)